MAKING MARRIAGE WORK
At Marriage Makeover, our mission is making marriage work.
And it definitely takes work. Marriage is hard enough, and many of the things married couples do to try and help actually make it harder. Through experience, we have learned that wounded people wound people, but healthy people make healthy marriages.
That's why at Marriage Makeover we don't treat the symptoms, we try and get to the root issues causing the problems.
In surveys of divorced persons in the United States, the most consistently cited reasons for divorce are:
- lack of communication;
- lack of commitment;
- infidelity and/or jealousy;
- personal habits/addictions;
- physical and/or mental abuse; and
- parenting and/or fertility.
In the Marriage Makeover lifegroups, retreats, and seminars, our approach is to help "divorce-proof" your marriage by preemptively dealing with problems that frequently arise, and helping repair damage that has already been done.
For example, rather than forcing ineffective communication between individuals with different communication styles, we test spouses for personality types and teach them to communicate with each other more effectively.
Instead of trying to persuade spouses they are loved, we test them for love languages, so they can show love in a way the other spouse can receive it.
We teach couples to set boundaries within the marriage to avoid situations that could cause temptation or jealousy.
We help spouses get on the same page about money management, budgeting, and spending.
If couples are local, we encourage both spouses to attend a Freedom Retreat (a ministry of Emmanuel Fellowship Church) to address personal habits, addictions, behaviors, and past wounds that affect the marriage relationship. It is also an opportunity to address issues of abuse and neglect. If couples are unable to attend, we provide individual ministry to address those same issues.
We discuss sexual and intimacy, and we explore issues hindering intimacy.
We also teach on parenting, discipline, behavior modification, and other challenges encountered when raising children.
In our Marriage Makeover lifegroups, retreats, and seminars, we intentionally target the top reasons cited for divorce, and the results have been beyond our wildest expectations.